Intensive Couple Therapy
in person Tacoma | online WA, OR & UT
Save your relationship over the weekend.
Because weekly therapy is too slow for a relationship on its last legs.
You’re here because your spouse just asked you for a divorce—or you’re reeling from the revelation of infidelity.
When your relationship is in crisis, what you do next—and when—really matters. You might need emergency intervention right now, or your weekly couple therapy just isn’t getting to the heart of the matter. You’re tired of “fight of the week” therapy. You need to go deeper to understand how the two of you got yourselves into the mess you’re in now.
You need to start feeling better immediately. It’s time to stop the hemorrhaging and start the healing.
Underneath all of the hurt, there’s a deep love and connection that keeps you together. You’re here because you’re ready to rediscover and fight to renew that feeling. With intensive therapy, you can stabilize your current relationship crisis, dig deeper to the underlying issues which caused the crisis, and start to feel better. You can walk out ready to do weekly therapy, knowing that it’s working, rather than using it as a band-aid for the hurt you can’t get to.
How It Works
Couple Intensives are a form of therapy designed to supercharge your progress in just one weekend.
Typically spanning over one or two days, we’ll engage in immersive and concentrated sessions that allow us to go deep and create meaningful change quickly. Some couples won’t succeed without immediate help, now—starting with weekly therapy could mean the end of their relationship as they continue to hurt and hurt each other, without a sign of hope.
Choosing to engage in couple intensive therapy is an act of prioritizing your relationship in a time of crisis.
During the couple intensive, we'll focus on your and your partner’s current experiences and challenges, using a blend of therapeutic approaches including PACT and ISTDP. Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT) is a method that uses a psychobiologically informed, mindful approach to resolving conflict to help relationships grow. Intensive Short-Term Dynamic Psychotherapy (ISTDP) is a dynamic and focused approach that emphasizes the exploration and resolution of unconscious emotional conflicts.
There will be opportunity for a one-on-one session with each of you, but most of the process will be with you, your partner, and myself. This is a space where we need to be 100% real with each other, so we won’t be shying away from feelings or reactions. I’ll encourage you both to bring whatever messes or struggles you have and be there to meet you with compassion, honesty, and focus.
The Schedule
Here’s a brief overview of what a 1 or 2 day couple intensive looks like:
Day 1 (6.5 hours) | $2,925
9:00am - 10:30am
Goal setting and structure for the weekend.
10:30pm - 12:00pm
Couple session to stabilize the current conflict and begin to unpack the root cause of relationship conflict.
12:00pm - 1:30pm
Lunch break to recharge and reflect.
1:30pm - 4:30pm
Joint couple session to continue working on relationship dynamics and develop shared accountability for the cause of relationship challenges.
4:30pm - 5:00pm
Feedback discussion and plan for the next day. For couples only doing a 1 day intensive, I will give you a written summary of what we’ve covered and your homework.
Day 2 (6 hours) | $2,700
9:00am - 10:30AM
An individual session for one partner to understand their internal conflict leading to relationship conflict.
10:30am - 12:00pm
Second individual session focused on self-awareness of unconscious internal conflicts feeding relationship conflict.
12:00pm - 1:30pm
Lunch break to rest and regroup.
1:30pm - 4:00pm
Final couple session to integrate each individual’s understanding of how their disowned internal conflicts drive relationship issues, and to work on the relationship with a deeper understanding.
4:00pm - 4:30pm
We discuss feedback about the day and the impact of the weekend as a whole, recap what you learned and discuss next steps. You will leave with a written summary of what we’ve covered and what you will practice at home.
I can handle your fights and I’ll teach you how to handle them, too.
While the process is often intense and challenging, the results are profound. Many couples experience emotional breakthroughs and a renewed sense of connection by the end of their marriage intensive. Whether you're seeking to save your marriage, repair after infidelity, or simply gain a better understanding of yourselves and each other, couple intensives offer a powerful opportunity for accelerated growth and healing.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Couple intensives benefit people who want rapid change and are willing to put in the effort. This isn’t a place where you or your partner “get fixed,” or for those who are making any sort of concrete plans to end their relationship (i.e. dividing assets, divorce attorney, etc.). Intensives are about putting your relationship first, requiring accountability from both partners, a belief in your ability to change together, and a willingness to dive in with both feet. Schedule an intake appointment with me here to get started and make sure an intensive is right for you.
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Yes, relationships with a history of DV or IPV may be a fit for an intensive and are welcome in this process. If there are current or recent episodes of physical violence, it may require additional screening and cost for screening upfront. I’m always willing to connect and answer further questions, so feel free to schedule an intake appointment here.
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Intensives can be as short as 3-4 hours and as long as 1 or 2 days. I also offer mini-intensives that are 4 hours long. We can discuss what length of an intensive would be the best fit for you during your intake appointment.
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No. Couples intensives are held in person in my office over the weekend and online for residents of Washington, Oregon and Utah. You must be located in one of these states at the time of service.
My office is located at:
4041 Ruston Way, Suite 202
Tacoma, WA 98407
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I am not an In Network provider with any insurance. You are responsible for payment at the time of service. I am happy to provide you a receipt for out of network reimbursement. Call the number on the back of your insurance card to check your out of network benefits. See my FAQs page for additional instructions on what to ask.
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Intake Appointment (100 minutes): $700
1 Day Intensive (6.5 hours): $2,925
2 Day Intensive (12.5 hours): $5,625
Mini Intensive (4 hours): $1,800
Once you book an intensive with me, half of the total will charged as a booking deposit and the remainder will be due 14 days in advance. There are no cancellations. Reschedules may be possible in the case of an emergency, for up to 4 weeks after the original date.
Choosing to invest in an intensive isn't just about the money — it's about showing up for your relationship in a big way. You'll come out of it with a deeper connection, clearer communication, and a renewed sense of partnership that can carry you through whatever life throws your way.
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Yes. Before getting started, we'll have a 100 minute intake appointment to ensure we're the right fit and to prepare you for the intensive by discussing any specific concerns you have, as well as developing goals for the intensive. Cases with more severe distress, including DV/IPV, may require an additional assessment. Before the intensive, I am happy to consult with current medical or mental health providers, including current couple therapists, individual therapists, psychiatrists, etc. Schedule an intake appointment here.
If you do not want to schedule an intake appointment before your intensive and prefer to just dive in, I am happy to work with you without an intake appointment. It is not required.
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If you would like to continue working with me on a weekly or biweekly basis, I am happy to do so if I have availability on my calendar. If I do not have space to see you, I will offer referrals for a therapist in your area and can give them a recap of what you’ve worked on once you establish a relationship with a weekly therapist.
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Yes! I am happy to coordinate with your weekly therapist before and after your intensive about what you’re currently working on and a follow-up on what you both accomplished during your intensive.
